Who You Ought to Be

Ask a group of children what they want to be when they grow up and you’ll get a plethora of responses. A doctor, a teacher, a firefighter – in the eyes of a child, the prefect job is the one that makes them just like their hero. This doesn’t stop when we become adults. We continue to look for “heroes” among us: the woman with the successful career, the great mom, the girl who can create a bible study out of thin air. We idolize and obsess over becoming JUST LIKE that person. So that being said…who do you think you ought to be?

Should you be like the mother who never loses her temper? The single woman who makes millions online every year? The young married woman with great hospitality skills?

You should be YOU.

Who You Ought to Be

Becoming You(-ier)

I’m reading a fantastic book by John Ortberg called, The Me I Want To Be, and it’s phenomenal. In the first chapter, he makes a point of establishing the way God intended for us to live our lives:

When you flourish, you become more you. You become more that person God had in mind when he thought you up. You don’t just become holier. You become You-ier. (Ortberg, 2010, p. 16).

I just love that word: you-ier. Isn’t it fascinating to think that God wants to make us more like ourselves? We live in a world surrounded by media that constantly tells us we aren’t good enough. But His Word clearly tells us we are the way He intended for us to be:

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness… So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them…And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. ~Genesis 1:26-27; 31~ (ESV)

For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him. ~Colossians 1:16(ESV)~

Did you catch that? We were created FOR Him. You have a God-given purpose and desire, and that desire is part of what makes you unique.

Our Heart’s Desires

Let’s consider Psalm 37:4 for a moment:

Delight yourself in the Lord,
    and he will give you the desires of your heart. (ESV)

We’ve all heard this verse a million times, but every time I hear it I feel a sense of relief. It’s so tempting to live my life delighting in things other than God. I think we need to understand that, ironically, we can have the same desire in our heart, but delight in different things. For example, let’s say you have a desire to write. On one hand, you can become absorbed with fame, fortune, or success, and miss out on the blessings of delighting in the Lord. On the other hand, if you “delight yourself in the Lord…he will give you the desires of your heart.” You won’t just get to write, you’ll get to write with a purpose. Not only will you get to write with a purpose, but you’ll fulfill the purpose Christ called you to.

Who He Made You to Be

Psalm 139:13 says:

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.

God made each and every piece of you to be you. He doesn’t want all Christians to act the same way. If He wanted us to all be little Christ-loving robots He would have made us that way. Instead, He gave us a head with its own thoughts and a heart with its own desires. He doesn’t want you to change everything about who you are in order to be perfect. He’s perfecting you by making you “you-ier.”

The following verse in Psalm 139 tells us:

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. ~Psalm 139:14~ (ESV)

I want you to believe and know that you are “fearfully and wonderfully made”. And if you need a little reminder, click here to download my Psalm 139:14 phone background.

With Love Always,






Ortberg, J. (2010). The Me I Want To Be. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.